Although we all want basic things such as respect and duty in relationships, we often get only disappointments and heartbreaks. Why is this so? Well, because our expectations are too high and the people around us do not meet them.

To avoid disappointments, here are some things you should not expect from others

Don’t judge others according to your standards

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You should leave your standards only for you since different people have a different set of morals and principles. Do focus on your own sense of right and wrong but never impose them on the other people. As long as they don’t hurt you in any way, you should not be judgemental, so stop judging other people’s decisions! Since not everyone can be up to your perfect standards, you should set standards for yourself and let others around you decide on their own.

Realize that nobody is perfect

We often make a mistake believing that others should be like us. Don’t expect everyone to be tailor made for you. Disappointments are unavoidable, and the imperfections are our reality, but some people just have an obsessive compulsion to be perfect and have everything going their way. This can be very dangerous since it can lead towards things which are much worse than simple misunderstandings and disappointments.

Not everyone will agree with you

Even though your best friends sometimes do not agree on everything you say or feel, disagreeing is not something you should avoid in every occasion but you should use argumentation to support your point of view. Agreeing on everything is not even a desirable situation since arguing makes people think and do more. Also, agreeing on everything can mean that you don’t even try to think on your own. Generally, it is much easier to accept other’s point of view than creating your own based on your own thinking and common sense. You can greatly disagree with your friend/partner and still have wonderful relationships. Respect towards other people’s opinions is the key.

Do you really think that people can read your mind?

Some people may be intuitive, but not everyone has an intuitive mind. Unless you speak up your mind, not many people will know and guess what you are thinking about. Some will not even be able to understand your sarcasm and jokes unless you explain them your intentions. So you should better stop expecting wonders about knowing the inner workings of other minds.

Don’t expect that people will rescue you when you fall

All the people have their own struggles and problems because of which they are not able to help you whenever you fall. They may help you once or twice but not more than that. It’s not that they don’t want to, it is just that they don’t have time to help you every time. And you may be having problems because you are irresponsible so why should anyone help you when you don’t care about your own well-being?

Others will NOT treat you like you treat them

In an ideal world, when you are good towards somebody, he/she will do you good. In the real world, things are not as simple as that, and things hardly turn out the way we expect. You should face up to reality and be fair with everyone around you.

People change

With years passing by, most people change. Our world is not a perfect one and every day is a tough battle. It cannot be denied that people change with time and life’s experience and it is important that we change our standards and attitudes towards them. Not everyone is fair – the world is a battleground. You should be aware that you can get nothing in return of your endeavors and be prepared for that.

Love

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This is probably a crucial thing – you should be full of love. Love yourself in the first place, then your family, relatives, neighbors, city, job, country, and your planet! You should realize that nothing is easy and that the life is a constant fight. You have to realize how important it is to play it tough with hard work and discipline. Afterward, you will be able to make a difference but until then...